I can’t believe there was a movie made with the title: Wee Willie Winkie! Seriously, as a lesbian the last thing I ever thought of dealing with was the “member” of the opposite of sex. But I think the higher power (whoever that might be) thought they would give us a challenge, blessing us with two sons! As parents we pride ourselves on always telling the truth and speaking the truth, however when it comes to body parts – it’s a funny topic in our house. I love the fact my boys can run around and be proud of their wee willie winkies! Although catching Chase ( our 4year old) doing the willy dance in front of the windows J then when we have football on, watching a “cars” movie, I am constantly hearing Mary saying “Deacon, go in your room if you are wanting private time” or “Chase, stop pulling on your willy” and of course Chase responding “But, Mama, my willy is going the wrong way” I can’t help to think how can I capture these moments;  so one day when our boys are grown, we can have a laugh about such innocence and not conversations on the actual act of sex, of course my boys know even at this early stage in life the Kelison boy’s motto “no glove, no love”.

Our boys love everthing, even a grey rock that they find on a walk with Mama (marycay). As parents, its our job to make sure that our kids understand about the power of giving. So 3 times a year at the Kelison's home we do Spring, Summer and Fall Cleaning. We alert the boys a week before school that this will take place. It goes someting like this:

Mommy, "Hey guys, it's that time of year that we need to think about the toys we have not played with and to give to a little boy or girl toys they may not have."

Chase, "Mommy, I play with my toys everyday, so I don't think I have any to give."

Mommy, "Really Chase, hmmm, so when I speak with Santa, I can tell him that you don't need any toys this year?"

Deacon, "Chase, you want new toys right?"

Chase, "Well, yes - but I don't want to give up my toys, they are my favorite."

Deacon, "Then I will get more toys then you, since you aren't giving up any old toys, right Mommy?"

Mommy, "Maybe? ... (with a puzzle look)

Chase, "Well, how about I give up some of your old toys, Deacon?"

Deacon, "Mommy, this isn't working out."

Chase, "Ok, here is some toys, but Mommy, I will get new toys and you will let Santa know right?"

Mommy, "Of course I will.

Deacon, "High five Chase!" <clap of hands>

So, our sons go through their toys picking what they no longer want... occasionaly stopping to play or read, etc. I watch with pride, knowing how hard this may be for them, especially for Chase because he is still learning about the "giving part." Honestly, I think the hardest part for the boys was picking out the books and deciding on which ones they no longer read; and for me, the hardest part was realizing how much my boys are growing up so fast. I mentally recapture every memory I can as each toy is tossed in the "give away" box. 

As parents we try to be as honest as possible and not try "sugar" coat life and the subjects we talk about. However in the Kelison's house I (mommy) listening to Mary and Deacon's conversation during our dinner: Deacon (our oldest, 6 years) turns to Mama (Mary Cay) and asked "Mama, what is BHA or BHT?" Mama, "Well it's not good for you, it's a scientific long word, that I don't know the exact definition" Deacon, "Is that the chemical that isn't good for my sperm count?" Mommy (me) almost spraying the entire family with water..."Deacon, what did you say?" and with any words... Mary Cay (mama) holding her hand up to stop me from laughing and indicating that he was really serious. Mama continuing to speak with Deacon, "Well Deacon, remember the other day we were talking about using items that save the earth and healthy for our bodies and to protect your sperm count so you can have babies some day with your wife?" Of course I (mommy) couldn't help but started laughing and took a picture of Deacon getting mad at me, "Mommy! Stop laughing at my sperm! Someday I want to have kids with my wife and it's important not to use products with BHA OR BHT. Mommy, "I am sorry D - you are just so cute, and love you"